The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

9781471131820Last weekend we were rearranging the home office and I noticed a few books sitting on the shelf that still had bindings that were not creased. I decided to take them off the shelf and promote them to my bedside table.

Book One: “Revenge Wears Prada: The Devil Returns”. I loved the “Devil Wears Prada”, and am pretty sure the sequel will prove just as entertaining and give that warm fuzzy feeling in the end.

Book Two: “The Summer We Read Gatsby, The Novel”. I am a huge fan of Gatsby and have read the book numerous times. I also love the 1974 film featuring Robert Redford in the starring role of Jay Gatsby. Yes, Leonardo DiCaprio did a good job, but he is no Robert Redford.

I digress.

Book Three: “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”. This book was purchased by my husband, and he “forgot” he bought it last Spring at Barnes & Noble. I decided it will be the first read of the three. I can use some good habits to become more effective. I’ll try to share some thoughts throughout the read.

Do What You Say

fixxI don’t like when I let the day to day things bother me. I try to see the good in people, and believe being positive can make a tremendous difference in my life. So, I am a bit annoyed that I let this past week get to me.

I dealt with people who lied, broke their word, misrepresented themselves, and simply didn’t follow through. I know most of us have to deal with these same situations day in and day out. However, why can’t people simply do what they say they are going to do?

That reminds me of a song (I’m dating myself here) from the 80’s by The Fixx. It it still a fave album of mine, “Reach the Beach”. The song I am referring to is “One Thing Leads to Another”. Cy Curnin on vocals, Jamie West-Oram on lead guitar, Adam Woods on percussion, and Alfie Agius on bass.

The lyrics, although written about politicians, can easily represent the last seven days. I think I’ll take a bit to listen to The Fixx and look forward to the new week. As long as I do what I say, that has to be worth something.

Do what they say, say what they mean

One thing leads to another

You told me something wrong, I know I listen too long

But then one thing leads to another

One thing leads to another

Then it’s easy to believe

Somebody’s been lying to me

But when the wrong word goes in the right ear

I know you’ve been lying to me

It’s getting rough, off the cuff I’ve got to say enough’s enough

My Disorganized Organization

disorganizeI’m a bit of an organization guru. I like things tidy, I like things in their place, I like to make sure all the necessary information is noted correctly on the proper page. I have been this way for as long as I can remember.

Recently, I had a phone call and jotted a few notes on a post-it. I was busy so didn’t transfer the information. I put the post-it in my notebook with all the intentions of doing it later. Then another call, which resulted in another post-it. The days got busy and I was keeping my deal files up to date, but in the evening, when I usually update new, old, and current client information, I simply kept the post-its. This continued for about a week, and now I’m blogging about the post-it madness instead of transferring the information to the locations that are waiting to be updated.

With all this disorganization what is one more night of procrastination? There is always tomorrow to get it done and to get rid of the blank post-it notes so I don’t add more. Perhaps this really isn’t my fault. Maybe, just maybe, I can blame this mess on the person who gave me the post-it notes? Hmm, he’s sitting with me on the sofa. Nay, as much as I’d like to pass the post-it blame, it’s on me.

Dear Mother-in-Law

Ariel-the-little-mermaid-6538231-236-297Have you ever wondered why so many of the mothers in Disney movies are dead? Arial had a Dad, sure he was a King, but he had no Queen. I wonder if Prince Eric would have been so crazy about his little mermaid had there been a Queen Triton? Then there is Jasmine, another princess, whose Queen mother was a member of the dearly departed club. Would Aladdin (also without a mother) have taken Jasmine on that magic carpet ride had her Mother wanted to tag along?

I’m no Disney princess, but I have to wonder what do the animator story tellers know about mother-in-laws that I don’t? Perhaps it is because mother-in-laws get a bad rap. Maybe it is just the simple fact that in the middle of these animated love stories a mother-in-law just isn’t romantic.

I have to agree because my mother-in-law, of over twenty years, is many things, but one of them is definitely not romantic. I have seen this little woman bring a room of happy joyful people and turn into a dreadful, sighing, eye rolling, head shaking situation where people are seeking the nearest escape route.

OK, so you get it. I have some mother-in-law issues. My latest issue is she sent me a gift. What? A gift? How ungrateful I must be to complain about a mother-in-law who gives presents.jasmine

The gift she sent me is four large containers of organic granola. I love organic and  I like granola, but this otherwise healthy snack has tree nuts. Why should I complain? I’m allergic to tree nuts! This fact is well known by family, friends, co-workers, and I’m sure general acquaintances.

This isn’t even the first time she has made this “error”. It isn’t even the second or third. She will be reminded of my allergy and will (like always) pretend to have forgotten. Then I will give the granola to friends to enjoy.

Maybe Disney doesn’t just find mother-in-laws unromantic, but they also know that the princesses shouldn’t go into anaphylaxis because that would ruin the happily ever after. Perhaps Disney can write my mother-in-law a note.